Dating dutch women
Sonja said that many women here cast their already modest concerns about beauty aside and focus on living health-conscious lifestyles as they grow older.
"They could be more glamorous to feel better about themselves," she said.
They and their attitude towards me certainly were part of (but surely not the only) reason I made the decision to move to South East Asia in 1997.
I have never been particularly popular with the Dutch girls.
Regina, 20, was more forward on the issue when she said, "It is definitely true that we are bossy and want to take control of men.
It feels nice to have control."However, Silvana, 24, disagreed when she said, "Women who say they are in charge are just the ones who want it." I realise that this subject is far from unique to Dutch culture, but the perception of the woman in charge seems more prevalent than in many other places.
As they tend to cut their hair shorter than in other cultures and have declining concern for fashionable clothes, Dutch women can appear more masculine than their counterparts.
For quite a while now I have been puzzled by the behaviour and preferences most Dutch girls exhibit.I have noticed that Dutch women can be quick to make themselves known or to put someone in their place.Carin said, "Maybe Dutch women are aggressive, but when looking at Southern European countries like Italy and Spain, women are more openly aggressive."At the Central Station in Amsterdam, Helen, 33, said that Dutch women "can dominate the men even in what they wear and who their friends are." Marlaan, 21, agreed, "Women here are in charge in most cases, and are known for speaking what they think, even too much sometimes." Sonja said, "We are fighting to be equal with men, but sometimes we over-rule the man and things go out of balance." Sonja went on to say that Dutch men are not intimidated by Dutch women, but other nationalities are.She exhibited Dutch modesty as she was hesitant to acknowledge that she has appeared on the covers of magazines like Elle, Vogue and Grazia.Sonja said that much of the confidence and comfort seen in Dutch women comes from the nature of the culture itself.